Daddy don't you worry none, 'cause Mama's got The Pill

[twoweevils]

My period finally showed up -- three days late -- nixing my vain hope that the third time was, in fact, the charm. When I went for my ultrasound/bloodwork extravaganza on Sunday, they found that I still have ovarian cysts.

This is actually kind of good news. It tells me that the ovary-stimulating drugs they gave me last time worked very well which, in turn, means that my ovaries are not all that old and shrivelled up. Just that little boost sent them into overdrive. But we want the next round of medication to stimulate the growth of eggs, not cysts. So a month of birth control pills will suppress ovulation and should get rid of the cysts. We'll start with a clean slate somewhere around the third week of August.

Between that, the double insemination, and the post-insemination progesterone suppositories, I think we might just nail it next time. Besides, did you know that a healthy young heterosexual couple with well-timed intercourse has only a one-in-four chance of conceiving? These are the things they don't tell you in sex ed. class. And with the ovarian stimulation, scientifically-timed insemination, plus the finest, healthiest sperm in the land, we're light years ahead of your average wannabe parents.

I was a little depressed when I first found out that I still had cysts. I thought maybe my body was telling me that enough was enough. I've been feeling a little down about the whole thing ever since I told my mother about our plans. She was less than enthusiastic. She thinks I'm nuts -- which isn't new because she's been saying that my whole life. She thinks this will ruin my life and told me she hopes it doesn't work. Nice. And pretty much what I expected she'd say. That's one of the reasons I wasn't going to say anything to her until I was actually pregnant.

But the more I thought about it, the more I realized that would be a lousy thing to do. It would seem like I didn't want to tell her ahead of time for fear that she'd talk me out of it. It would be horrible for her to know I'd been engaged in this process for months without trusting her enough to tell her. And it will also give her more time to get used to the idea and figure out how she's going to tell her friends and relatives that her 41-year-old daughter is having a baby with her "friend" K. and an anonymous sperm donor.

Good luck with that one, Mother dear. Happily, my sister has been very supportive and she'll bring the Mother around eventually. Just sucks to have someone say to your face that they're actively hoping you won't succeed at something. Never mind. She will come around and everything will be fine and mellow. Dammit.

M.

Comments

[sp23.livejournal.com]

That sucks about your mom. Having a mother of my own, I know how you feel though. :-)

I'm still keeping positive thoughts going for you and K and the longed-for Littlest Weevil.

[twoweevils.livejournal.com]

Thanks, hon!

M.

[lonelywalker.livejournal.com]

did you know that a healthy young heterosexual couple with well-timed intercourse has only a one-in-four chance of conceiving?

It's amazing anyone ever gets pregnant at all! Although, I guess in the Age Before Birth Control, it was a bit of a relief.

Fingers crossed for you both, as always.

[twoweevils.livejournal.com]

It really is amazing that anyone ever gets pregnant. When you really look at all the twelve zillion things that have to go right, it's quite daunting.

M.

[starfishchick]

did you know that a healthy young heterosexual couple with well-timed intercourse has only a one-in-four chance of conceiving? These are the things they don't tell you in sex ed. class

Dude.

And I'm sorry about your mother. Oy.

[twoweevils.livejournal.com]

Yeah, that statistic really surprised me, too. The number of steps required to make everything work properly is astonishing. My mother will come around eventually. She always does.

Thanks,
M.

[starfishchick]

In sex ed class they told me if I had sex (protected or not!) that I WOULD GET PREGNANT.

[darthrami.livejournal.com]

Moms are hard. Very very hard. *HUGS*

Fingers crossed that the BCPs do their magic. :D

[twoweevils.livejournal.com]

I'm discovering that I'm a lot more like my mother than I used to think. She'll come around to this, like she came around to K -- in her own good time.

M.

PS -- I never got that e-mail and it's not in my spam folder. Hmmm.

[darthrami.livejournal.com]

HRM indeed. >.< grrr, argh. IM? gchat? Or I could just comment with my url & the resource's url (which I'd probably then delete, b/c I'm trying to keep the two separate), but that then negates the point of CHATTING with you. ;-)

[darthrami.livejournal.com]

(and I just re-sent to both addy's I've got for you.)

[adafrog.livejournal.com]

Oh wow. I'm sorry you don't get any support from your mom. And she calls K your friend? {{hugs}}
I hope it works well this time.

[twoweevils.livejournal.com]

The Mother usually just refers to K as "K" with no explanation of our relationship. She wouldn't come to our wedding, but she treats K exactly like a daughter-in-law -- right down to wanting to buy her slippers every Christmas, giving her advice when she's sick, and telling her stories about what I was like as a kid. I'm sure she'll come around to the baby thing before long.

*hugs*
M.

[adafrog.livejournal.com]

Oh good. Having a helpful grandmother is usually a good thing. :D

[sonatine.livejournal.com]

That sucks about your mom. If it helps, you have so many other people who are rooting for you! I hope this cycle works this time.

[twoweevils.livejournal.com]

Thanks so much! Right now I feel like if I can just pop out an egg and get some sperm in there, everything will work out perfectly.

M.

[celli]

*hugs*

[twoweevils.livejournal.com]

*hugs*

[chicklet-girl.livejournal.com]

Wishing you the best of luck -- and now you'll be able to have a cocktail or two before beginning the next cycle. *g* I'm sorry your mom is so weirded out; I think she will come around eventually. I've heard plenty of stories of The Grandchild(ren) being the tipping point toward acceptance of a GLBT relationship.

[twoweevils.livejournal.com]

I know she'll be delighted when I'm actually pregnant. As it is, she treats K like a daughter-in-law. She just doesn't say that K is her daughter-in-law. And we're both fine with that. The really funny thing is, the Mother is driving my 31-year-old niece demented with demands for a great-grandchild. Apparently she's not opposed to children at the moment. Just my children. *mutter*

I think I'll have that cocktail now.

M.